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Evil Beard - The Life and Thoughts of Zach

Apr. 23rd, 2003

09:56 am - Evil Beard

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I wasn't going to write about it but I might as well since I mentioned it in my previous post.

Last week I had a pretty straightforward dream that was simple, disturbing, and fairly hilarious (that it was disturbing was itself hilarious).

I dreamt that I was sleeping with an ex-gf. I think the dream must have been set back in the days when we were dating because in the dream I felt no bad feelings about cheating on my current gf. It seemed like the natural thing to do in the context of the dream.

Anyway, in the dream we woke up and went for a walk. She looked in the mirror at some point and screamed. She had grown a beard! Just stubble but quite dark and thick, like mine. Then we jointly theorized that maybe we'd had too much sex and this was a result of that. Some kind of extension of the hair on the palms masturbation myth I guess.

So I wonder if this has to do with my constant anxieties about my stubble being uncomfortable for my partner when I forget to shave, or about anxieties about the possible consequences of sex (beard as a metaphor for pregnancy?), or just another surreal moment in the dream life of Zach.

It is interesting that I've been dreaming about exes lately. I never dreamed about them when we were dating. I never dream about my current partner now. I almost never dream about the people who are close to me....my dreams are entirely populated by dream extras playing the parts of my dream friends and by not-so-close totally random friends, usually from the past. Have I been completely split off from my exes for so long that they're drifting into that "friends from the past who I'd love to see but don't cling to and so they pop up in my dreams" category?

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From:superlemming13
Date:April 23rd, 2003 09:31 am (UTC)
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Oddly enough, you were in my dream I had last night, and I actually took note of the fact that you'd shaved off your beard.
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From:zarfmouse
Date:April 23rd, 2003 09:38 am (UTC)
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That IS odd. Were you aware of the fact that as of March 21st I have in fact shaved off my beard?
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From:superlemming13
Date:April 23rd, 2003 11:02 am (UTC)
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I am now. :)
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From:marezcharz
Date:April 23rd, 2003 10:25 pm (UTC)

Hairy/Furry

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MMMMMMMM, wery interesting.
You've just reminded me of one of my own dreams. I will record it in my journal in depth but the short of it is, I looked into a mirror and discovered my abdomen was covered with a thick, silky, dark fur.
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From:marezcharz
Date:April 29th, 2003 02:55 am (UTC)

Ex-gf

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I am going to sound like somebody's shrink but I find it interesting that the only abbreviation is 'gf'. Vat vill ve do mit you, Herr Zarfmouse?
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From:zarfmouse
Date:April 29th, 2003 07:23 am (UTC)

Re: Ex-gf

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I almost never write out the word "girlfriend". I think I'm stuck between cultures. There's the normal part of me that uses the word "girlfriend" but then there's the enlightened college part of me that says I should use "partner" or "significant other" (which I'd of course translate to "SO") so as to not assert gender norms. But then the normal part of me tells me that it is pretentious to always do that. And as my brain is freaking out and I only have a split second as I'm typing to resolve the conflict my fingers quietly abbreviate without telling me and move on...

...but who knows maybe it has some deeper meaning. You tell me, shrinko.

:)
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From:marezcharz
Date:April 29th, 2003 10:51 pm (UTC)

Re: Ex-gf

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What I was getting at was that 'commitment thingy'; just a joke. A friend of mine avoids the word and says that he's got a girl he 'talks to'.

Ya know, it's obvious you think too much about it already. Give up on what other people think. Use whatever works for you. We'll get it.

Words can be as limiting as they can be liberating.
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